Canceling bar mitzvah celebration as punishment for wetting the bed?
My son will be 13 in a few months and he still wets the bed almost every night. According to halacha, he'll still become an adult whether there is a c...
My son will be 13 in a few months and he still wets the bed almost every night. According to halacha, he’ll still become an adult whether there is a ceremony in shul or not. But he certainly isn’t a "man" if he still wears diapers to bed. I’m sure you can imagine how I feel having to buy him "goodnites" at the supermarket. I fill up the cart with other things, then go to the diaper aisle, look around to make sure no one can see, then I put the goodnites in the cart under other things. Is taking away his bar mitzvah an acceptable punishment? Of couse, he can have the party as soon as he starts waking up dry.
haha your son is a jew
stop posting the same question over and over!!!!!!!! its annoying- you’ve got your reaction now! bit sad and pathetic if you ask me
You may want to take the boy to the doctors.
Have you taken him to a doctor about the bedwetting? I am serious. If he is wetting the bed, he has a medical condition and needs help from a medical professional.
I think that cancelling the celebration as a punishment is extraordinarily cruel. How will he explain it to his friends and classmates? Or do you care?
You know, if his bedwetting turns out to be psychological, I bet you are the cause.
That is a awful idea. He’s not wetting the bed because he wants to and punishing him in any way at all for something he has no control over is pretty harsh.
He’s probably more embarrassed about it than you are. Most kids stop wetting the bed at about five years old or so – if he is still doing it now then there is likely to be a issue, possibly medical or psychological, that he needs help with.
From the sound of your question it’s likely that you have been punishing him for a while for this and, to be honest, this is probably the root cause of why he hasn’t stopped. Go see your doctor, who will tell you it’s very important not to punish the your son or make him worried about the bed-wetting, and will be able to suggest some practical solutions to help both of you solve this.
I can’t stress enough how important it is that you don’t make him feel bad about this – this is probably why this is still going on.
Have a little sympathy for your kid – he’s only thirteen and probably hates himself for this. Making him think you hate him too and that he’s "not a man" is desperately unfair.
Your reaction to your son’s bed wetting seems to be based on what you feel, not what your son feels. It seems he could have either a medical problem, or a physiological one. Either way, he needs help, not punishment, and your suggestion is absolutely cruel.
You need to take your son to the doctor’s and have his bladder checked. This could be a medical problem and canceling his celebration is not the answer. You should not be embarrassed by your son’s problems, you should be concerned that he doesn’t have a health issue that could be making him have this problem in the first place. Good luck and Bless you.
What’s with all the bedwetting at your house? I’m beginning to think that YOU are the one wetting the bed. In any event, be it your husband or your son, they need medical help. Get them both to the doctor.
Having now read this, my opinion is that you are a most cruel person, thinking only of yourself – Sleep in a different bed than your husband and cancel your son’s bar mitzvah. Hopefully they will both then realize that you care about no one but yourself and send you packing!! Believe me, your son will NEVER forgive you and I won’t blame him.
Wow, you’ve got a whole family of bed wetters. Sucks to be you.
<sigh> No one wants to hear this but it’s clear that you are a failure as a wife and mother. First your husband and now your son? It’s a disgrace to your community and cannot be forgiven. Your temple should shun you. The only honorable solution is seppuku. Good Luck!
I don’t get it. How come everybody in your family wets the bed? Don’t you have an indoor bathroom? I still wet the bed sometimes. I am 17 but I have epilepsy and I pee sometimes when I have a seizure in my sleep. Maybe this is what your family has. You need to take them all to see a doctor.
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