help me please not sure how to take the next step?
a few weeks ago this frequent shopper that comes in my work maybe 3 to 4 times a week shops at my work , at first I thought he was just being nice and friendly,then a few weeks later I was out on my schedule time frame for charts. He was coming up to me form the parking lot and I was inside the cart area where we gather the carts and bring them back in to the main cart area wear people get the carts form. While I was inside the mini cart area this person comes into the mini cart area and starts talking to me and I forgot what he said before he gave me the hug and then he started saying that he loves me more than once and the he finally let me go and then on july 14th around five thrifty I was going on my break and so I got a soda and then I went and stood in line and then this person comes up behind me and just grabs my upper arm and one of my co workers kind of saw what happen but I am not hundred percent positive that she saw what happen so a few minutes later my other co worker told my supervisor what happen so she paged another checker to relive her so we could talk about that happened but she told me to wait until we got up stairs into my boss office so it would be more private and confidential and so as soon as I go up stairs she unlocked the door and me and her started talk and we where waiting for another one of my co workers to get up stairs so as soon as the other co worker go up stairs I told my supervisor and the other co worker what had happen and so I told her that this guy has been bothering me and he keeps touching me and she asked me if he had touched my breast and I told her no and she told me that she was going to call the store manager and so she told me just to wait until she go off the phone and also she asked to see the receipt for the soda so she could right down the time which I did a few minutes after she go off of the phone she told me that my boss told me to white a statement with as much details as I can and also he is not allowed to shop at the store which I don’t know how long that will before but when I got home my night time supervisor called me to check to see if I got home which I did so a few minutes after I calm down a bit form what had happened to me I called my work back and talked to my night time supervisor and so she wants me to call my work tomorrow and to speak with my assistant store manager, I feel so violated form what he did to me and I basically feel threaded by him and intimated by him and also ashamed of what he did and also insulting, I don’t know if I can tell my therapist this but I feel I need to in order to get through this difficult time i just can’t stop crying over this I wish this was a easy fix but I guess not I feel if I don’t tell my therapist then I am hiding a big secret form her, i want to cut my self bad to the point of leaving a huge scar on my body what should i do i don’t see my therapist until next thursday and don’t see my other doctor until september should i show both of them the statement that i typed up for work and what do i do in the mean time i feel so down and bad help me need a lot of answers scared to go to work because problem please need serious answers no mean answers of insulting answers very upset about this i have not been able to sleep at all last night because l like he is going to threaten me again i know i should Go to the police and get a restraining order against this guy so he doesn’t come within 500 Ft. i am i messing anything in my statement for work or what not need a ton of answers why do i feel like cutting due to this problem by the way my age is 21 years old and i do have witnesses to this to and also i want to take him to court and get him arrested how would i go about doing this and i started cutting again and can,t stop please no rude comments please ok so today i saw this son of a ***** Again i try ed to get his license plate number but he drove away to fast help me i don’t know what to do i feel like he is stoking me at work and i cant sleep at night because of this problem
my work is doing nothing about this.
my work has done thing about this situation what should i do about this i don’t want to go to work tomorrow
i don’t want to go to work tomorrow what should i do
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>"I don’t know if I can tell my therapist "
Are you selective about what you see your therapist about?
A couple of things, it appears you have other issues in addition to this specific incident. I would suggest that you get an appointment with your therapist as soon as possible to help you sort what’s going on here.
Call the Cops.
Part of this is him, and part of it is you.
He’s a little creepy, and has made unwanted advances. Ok, he got banned from the store. That means the people at the store want to protect you from him, which is good. They’re doing the right thing. If he shows up again, the police will be called, and he will have to leave or go to jail. People are trying to help you.
The part of this that is you is your reaction. It’s reasonable to be a little creeped out about this, but your reaction is out of proportion to the harm he has caused. A little apprehension is also normal, but you sound almost paralyzed by this. Please do your best to deal with your fear. Nobody at work is blaming you for this. Please don’t let this man keep you from going to work…don’t let him win!
And also, please try to talk to your therapist about this. Your therapist can’t help you if they don’t know what you’re dealing with. You might find that just talking to your therapist about this makes it seem a little less frightening. Try to find the courage…please.
Best of luck to you.