


help me with this serious issue?
A few weeks ago this frequent shopper that comes in my work maybe 3 to 4 times a week shops at my work , at first I thought he was just being nice and...
A few weeks ago this frequent shopper that comes in my work maybe 3 to 4 times a week shops at my work , at first I thought he was just being nice and friendly,then a few weeks later I was out on my schedule time frame for charts he was coming up to me form the parking lot and I was inside the cart area where we gather the carts and bring them back in to the main cart area wear people get the carts form and while I was inside the mini cart area this person comes into the mini cart area and starts talking to me and I forgot what he said before he gave me the hug and then he started saying that he loves me more than once and the he finally let me go and then on july 14th around five thrifty I was going on my break and so I got a soda and then I went and stood in line and then this person comes up behind me and just grabs my upper arm and one of my co workers kind of saw what happen but I am not hundred percent positive that she saw what happen so a few minutes later my other co worker told my supervisor what happen so she paged another checker to relive her so we could talk about that happened but she told me to wait until we got up stairs into my boss office so it would be more private and confidential and so as soon as I go up stairs she unlocked the door and me and her started talk and we where waiting for another one of my co workers to get up stairs so as soon as the other co worker go up stairs I told my supervisor and the other co worker what had happen and so I told her that this guy has been bothering me and he keeps touching me and she asked me if he had touched my breast and I told her no and she told me that she was going to call the store manager and so she told me just to wait until she go off the phone and also she asked to see the receipt for the soda so she could right down the time which I did a few minutes after she go off of the phone she told me that my boss told me to white a statement with as much details as I can and also he is not allowed to shop at the store which I don’t know how long that will before but when I got home my night time supervisor called me to check to see if I got home which I did so a few minutes after I calm down a bit form what had happened to me I called my work back and talked to my night time supervisor and so she wants me to call my work tomorrow and to speak with my assistant store manager, I feel so violated form what he did to me and I basically feel threaded by him and intimated by him and also ashamed of what he did and also insulting, I don’t know if I can tell my therapist this but I feel I need to in order to get through this difficult time i just can’t stop crying over this I wish this was a easy fix but I guess not I feel if I don’t tell my therapist then I am hiding a big secret form her, i want to cut my self bad to the point of leaving a huge scar on my body what should i do i don’t see my therapist until next thursday and don’t see my other doctor until september should i show both of them the statement that i typed up for work and what do i do in the mean time i feel so down and bad help me need a lot of answers scared to go to work because problem please need serious answers no mean answers of insulting answers very upset about this i have not been able to sleep at all last night because l like he is going to threaten me again i know i should Go to the police and get a restraining order against this guy so he doesn’t come within 500 Ft. i am i messing anything in my statement for work or what not need a ton of answers why do i feel like cutting due to this problem by the way my age is 21 years old and i do have witnesses to this to and also i want to take him to court and get him arrested how would i go about doing this
I can’t read that. Have you never heard of full stops and paragraphs?
You feel this urge to cut yourself because subconsciously you feel that your body was the thing that attracted him and that your body is the problem. You desperately want to cut off the problem and you end up trying to cut yourself.
The other thing is that when females and some young children feel very threatened by something beyond their control, they cut themselves so that the pain and the trauma from the cut would block out the terror and helplessness that they are feeling. In addition, the body does produce endorphins, natural pain-killers that make you feel slightly better after the cut.
Girl, you need to be firm with yourself and THINK. Thinking helps calm you from your fears. People who suddenly found themselves in dangerous situations survived because they were rational and thinking even though they may be, for instance, hanging from a cliff by a thin rope.
Plan and rehearse in your head the steps you are going to take the next time you see this guy coming. Imagine him coming and rehearse mentally what you are going to do. Keep on rehearsing in your head until you are calm and sure. Writing the steps down would help if you keep feeling panicky while thinking about the scenario. Soon
you will cease to be afraid.
To get leagl redress for your problem, you need to file a police report, write a statement at the police station. The next time the guy comes in alert your co-workers and security so that he will be detained and handed to teh police. After that you can file a suit against him.