How do I punish my AD HD daughter with out crossing the line?
My daughter just turned 2 in November and she misbehaves so badly! She makes me so mad but nothing I do seems to work!! She is extremely AD HD so talk...
My daughter just turned 2 in November and she misbehaves so badly! She makes me so mad but nothing I do seems to work!! She is extremely AD HD so talking to her about something she did or shouldn’t do is close to impossible. Her mind is already on something else by the time you can get her to look at you and listen to what you have to say. Then she has no idea what you are talking about! She is also extremely bright. She is Very advanced and can talk Very clear. Right now when she doses something wrong I raise my voice and then she knows that mommy is mad! When she troughs fits when are at home I try to ignore her but that has never worked and Always makes it much worse! It always ends up in her getting a spanking and sent to her room for time out. (I’m a big believer in spanking your kids!! Not beating your kids but spankings! I grew up with 2 sisters and we wore spanked regularly! I am also severely AD HD.I was diagnosed in Kindergarten. Now being an adult I can see how my mind works is different than people who don’t have AD HD! Spanking always worked! I turned out great and have a wonderful relationship with my parents and my sisters!). She dose not take anything i say seriously, noting seems to scare her into listening to me! When we are in public it is so bad! She will scream and yell like she is dyeing, flail her arms around and kick her legs! It embarrasses me so bad and makes me so mad! Its getting to the point where we aren’t being invited to play groups and my friends don’t want to hang out when I have to bring Sam! Don’t really know what to do! Her Father lets her do what ever she wants and that drives me absolutely crazy! When we all go grocery shopping he lets her go from being carried, sitting in the cart, standing in the back of the cart, walking, riding under the cart!! AAAHHHH I just want a well mannered child that listens and respects me! Any one knows how to get through to an AD HD child? What is the best way to discipline in public? Are we even allowed to swat our kids hands? My aunt got DEFAX called on her at Kroger for telling my cousin that she was going to leave her if she didn’t stop having a fit in the toy isle and allow my aunt to pick her up! She didn’t even lay a hand on her! She didn’t even threaten to hit her!! I can’t stand it when nosy people do that! What they fail to realize is that the kids that are being abused and mistreated are so quiet and shy that they are often time over looked! What can we do in public? What’s crossing the law where you are at risk of getting into trouble with DEFAX?
You seem so focused on the word punish. Trust me I know exactly where you are coming from with the frustration in dealing with kids with ADD and AD-HD. I have two of my own with the same issues. But is this something that has been diagnosed by a doctor or from your own experiences and what others observe and say. This is very important to know FIRST before you start to talk about disciplinary techniques for misbehaving. I feel your pain and I can hear it in your words.It has to be diagnosed first. Has it been ??? There may be more to it than you think. Please just remember that if it is ADD or ADHD it is not there intent to make your life miserable. They truely cannot control themselves.
Two years old is way to young for AD HD to be correctly diagnosed. She might have it, but she also might just be a normal two year old. Please try time out and other punishment.
I am sorry to say, but from the anger in your post I think you may (without knowing it) have already started to cross the line. So please take a step back and look at how you are handling her. She might be acting out in part to the way you are treating her.
Talk to her doctor. Her doctor might have some ideas on how to handle her behavior and give you better tips on dealing with it yourself.
I really have found that time out works! You have to keep putting her back in the spot you designate for it if she gets up even if it takes a 100 times of putting her back. Pick one spot that is a time out spot. A chair that you don’t normally sit in, a step a place on a throw rug. I do have to tell you it can be absolutely hair wrenching doing this the first few times but I’ve found that it works and our daughter is much more behaved. 2 and 3 are tough ages for children, they really do try to see what they can get a way with and it can make you feel like you are going to explode. If you are in a store you just have to pick them up and go out to the car, even if you have to leave a cart full of groceries behind. It is pretty impossible to do anything in a store with a screaming child.