i need some calming techniques….please help!?
i had child support court today, the douche didnt show. i had to wake my cranky kid up, cart him there, wait forever just to be told come back tomorro...
i had child support court today, the douche didnt show. i had to wake my cranky kid up, cart him there, wait forever just to be told come back tomorrow at nine am. his father DOESNT work. so its not like he had anything important to do and he certainly go notice. he didnt even call to say he wasnt coming! i drank a butt load of coffee which isnt helping my anger. the only good thing is that if he doesnt show again tomorrow i get everything i ask for.
but i NEED something to do to help keep calm cuz im just so mad. it cant be a bath or anything cuz i have a 7 month old and im a single mom. any techniques you use???
Take a bath, not too hot and bring baby in with you.
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Close your eyes and breathe in and out as deeply and slowly as you can, I can usually relax after about 10 deep breaths, 20 if i’m super stressed.
i clean. and clean some more. it helps me so much when i’m stressed.
get a cup of tea, or something warm with no caffeine, snuggle the baby up in a rocking chair and sing a happy song to baby. Know that this little one is getting your best and that you are loved by your baby no matter how mad or happy you are. Breath slowly, "smell the flowers, blow out a candle" and just try to focus on the good. And, hey, babies do nap, maybe try a bath then??
I clean too. I take my anger out on my house and before I know it I have a clean house to enjoy. Sorry you had a hard day, good luck tomorrow!
I can completely understand your woe’s about an ex-deadbeat. And the whole, take a deep breathe and count to 10 doesn’t come close to calming down.
1) Yes he didn’t show, wasted your time, caused you to rush and start off your day in the worst way, but that sometimes blessings are in disguise! Remember, when life gives you lemon’s, squirt the juice into the eyes of your enemies!! ha ha Your not with him anymore for a reason, don’t fret!
2) It has been proved that singing will calm you down and really makes your stress disappear, so if your in the car or at home, find a good tune, whatever your favourite song is, and BLARE it! Dance and Sing, even with your little baby.
3) Prepare your self for him not showing again tomorrow morning, and if he doesn’t good for you, you win and this only proves that he’s not responsible. Celebrate!
I’m not being a smartass, but Yahoo! always calms me down
Try going for a walk and bring your ipod/mp3 with you … or you could do your hair, or put on some make-up ….
Good luck !
I clean. I take out my anger on anything stationary. It used to be a regular weekend thing. I would argue with my husband, he would take our daughter to his mom’s, and when they got home, everything would be sparkling. I would feel better, apologize, we would make up, and everyone was happy. We don’t do that now, but anytime I’m angry I clean. It’s a release.
My husband filmed himself doing some wild rocker videos, years ago, and they always make me laugh like crazy… I know that won’t help you, but maybe youtube has silly stuff like that.
You could go to a joke website, until you find yourself laughing at some.
I also meditate, although I know that’s not too helpful, with a 7-month-old, but if you can get a few minutes in, it helps! I’m not talking, crossing your legs, Indian-style, and going, "Omm," just trying to clear your head, and relax.
Good luck!
Put on the silliest children’s songs you have and dance around the room with the baby in your arms.
When baby is napping or in a different room, punch a pillow again and again and again…
Write a note to your ex saying everything you want to say….and then tear it up. Really….don’t send it to him! Just get all those thoughts out.
Call up your best friend and tell her you need to have a b*tch session and cry on her shoulder.
Chocolate. Chocolate heals many wounds.
Best of luck, honey!