My little nephew is pretty much… HORRIBLE. PLEASE HELP!!:(?
Okay, my sister went off and married this guy (after becoming pregnant) that she met at Dillons like, 5 years ago. She was 17ish. Her whole life, she ...
Okay, my sister went off and married this guy (after becoming pregnant) that she met at Dillons like, 5 years ago. She was 17ish. Her whole life, she messed up. She chose to. Her parents (my mom) were divorced. Everytime she didn’t get her way, she’d be like "Okay, I’m gonna go to Dad’s then!" so she’d get her way. Through her childhood AND teenage years. Now as an "adult" she has left him with me and my mom. HE IS TERRIBLE. He is rediculously smart. He knows how to do something and get away with it, just like his mom. Like, he can fake trip. Or fake laugh. Or barge into conversations. Or lie. Or act like he knows everything. He is adorable, I’ll admit, but his personality, my GOD. And hes like, 4. He will scream just so people think I hurt him. he makes me want to HURT HIM. I can’t even describe the way he acts. Normally, I love kids. I think they are soo sweet and angelic. But he isn’t. If hate wasn’t so frowned upon, I would hate him.
My mom? She is BLIND to this. My family that has seen this side of him, think he is awful. My mom is really close with her sister, and I talked to her, and she thinks my nephew is going to be a really good criminal. She wasn’t joking. They would agree to every word of this. My mom sees him as a perfect child. I don’t even know what to do anymore. Today, I went grocery shopping with him, my Mom and my friend. He would take random things, plop them in the cart, and my mom wouldn’t care. Sometimes she’d be like " no, put it back." but he’d be like "NOOOOO I WANT IT!!" and she’d be like *sigh* okay…
I hate it sooooo much.. even my friend thought it was rediculous. He gets everything he wants. Anything. I try telling my mom about my feelings, and she thinks I’m talking back. I can’t even talk to her without getting in trouble. My dad screams at me about everything.. so I can’t talk to him. One time when I did, he told me "I know, but we just have to ignore it."
I.Am.Done.Ignoring.This.
I need some serious advice..
p.s. My mom wants family counceling. THATS FUNNY, maybe if she wouldn’t be doing this, we wouldn’t have a problem. I feel like she loves him more than me. I’m told that isn’t possible, but my Lord, she acts like it…. 
Your nephew is a true product of your sister. Your sister is selfish and conniving. You can’t change your sister, your mom, or anyone but yourself. So this is what I suggest to you…when you have your nephew with yourself have a hand in raising him. He is 4 and he needs to know what wrong from right is RIGHT NOW. It begins now. This is where the personality makes itself. So put your good qualities upon this child so that they know what’s the right thing to do.
give the punk a swarly haha jk dont I always used to threaten my baby brothers when they did shit like that that I’d dunk them you have to play the same games as them just be 2 steps ahead
At least your mother is acknowledging there’s a problem and is willing to go to counseling to try to solve it. That’s a big plus. She’s not ignoring it as much as you think if she feels all of you could use a little professional help. I think you should definitely go and see what the counselor has to say.
For the record, my nephew is a major brat as well and he’s going to be moving into my house with me because his mom can’t afford the rent on their apartment. He’s eleven and his parents are divorced, and my sister gives in to his every demand, and he also plays both parents off each other. So I know what it’s like. Sometimes it’s hard for me to bite my tongue when I see my sister doing the wrong thing, like letting him have whatever he wants since he throws tantrums when he doesn’t get his way. (Eleven is WAY too old to be having a tantrum). Honestly, I don’t know how this kid is going to survive in the real world since screaming and carrying on won’t get you your way there.
Family counseling sounds like what you need. It really isn’t just for families with crazy problems either. It can really help. It helped me adjust to a step mom, a step brother, and a step sister after 10 years of it just being my dad and me. I felt like he loved them more than me, like he had replacement kids. But we worked that out. It sounds like your mom feels like she messed up with your sister, and doesn’t want to see any bad in your nephew. When you talk to her, listen to yourself. If you whine at all, raise your voice, get angry, it sounds like you are being a nasty jealous kid, no matter what is really happening. Family counseling can be a safe place to tell her how you feel, and her to really listen without getting in trouble. Family counseling is really just a talk session, a real lay it all out in the family lets talk, with a mediator to keep it from getting out of hand, to keep it from turning into a big fight. Family counseling can help you and your mom and dad and your nephew even learn what everyone is feeling. Ignoring the problem will not help. You think it is your moms fault, so say that in counseling. Don’t be afraid of counseling, it doesn’t mean you are bad, or family is bad, just that you need some mediation getting through this rough time in your lives. Good luck!
she is making him in to your sister he is at a very impressionable age and he has learned what he has to do to get what he wants and this is a mixture of his mother and your mothers fault and most people are going to try and freak on what i am about to say but that boy needs spanked i also raise mynepheww but have never had to put a hand on him and i take great care of him but your nephew is a spoiled brat and feel bad for being so harsh when talking about a child and family counseling is not a bad idea it is a place where you can say hey mom you are the adult try no and mean it before he becomes a teenager and is as wild as a loose monkey
WOW, its funny because i thought i was the only one with that problem, i have a 1 year old daughter who acts exactly the way your nephew does if she doesn’t get her way she get’s angry and she throws a temper tantrum but you know what the best thing to do is to let them know who is in charge because right now he thinks he is the one in charge and that is because your mom is allowing him to think that way buy giving him everything he wants i have learned with my own daughter that if i just let her cry when she wants something that she cant have she will get over it. but him being a 4 yr old should already know that he cant have everything he wants, and whenever he lies about things get him in trouble the corner or his room is a perfect spot and dont give him whatever it is that he wants until he understands that he can not continue to act like that. and that is for everything that he does wrong punish him and dont hug him or show him affection after the punishment because that will make him think that what he did was okay and that he could get away with it again. well i hope this is helpful in some way or another
send that little runt to me for a couple days, I have 4 nephews trust me they are all well behaved.