My girl is 10 months old. Such a good baby, but within the past couple weeks things have gotten very trying. I cannot leave her even a second without her screaming her head off. And often when I’m with her, I have to be paying full attention to her or she will also start screaming. She used to be good in public but now she screams everywhere wanting to get out of the cart/seat and explore. The only thing that calms her is puffs or her bottle but I’m tired of simply putting stuff in her mouth to calm her. Of course some of this off and on is teething, but I can tell when that’s the case, but the seperation anxiety and newly found temper are the current issue. How long did it last for you? What do you do to help? At an older age, I would march her out of the store, but she’s just a babe, so I’m not sure how to work on getting her to behave in public. Like what the first steps are? Am I supposed to keep her at my side and try to keep her happy, or should I be trying to let her cry it out and have play time on her own?

My 3 year old brother got the habit of putting things especially his fingers in his mouth. His hands are always wet with saliva. I tell him non stop all day to take his hands or objects out of his mouth. But right after i tell him he goes right back to doing it. Hes going to be four soon and heading to headstart in september and i dont think its very sanitary for him to do that especially at school where everything he touches other kids will too. He only got this from his 13 year old bro who does the same thing cuz of his braces. How do we help him break the habit. He does it constantly. Watching tv, eating, playing, when he gets yelled at, shopping cart seat belts toys clothes etc. Help please and thank you!

I was working as a bag boy at grocery store when a mother came up with her cart and her practically newborn child in the seat and unloaded the food, etc. I started to bag the stuff when she unhinged something on the cart seat and clamped the babies fingers between some metal, causing it to bleed a bit and purple. She scolded the BABY and, annoyed, continued to unload the cart while the baby was SCREAMING. As the baby screamed and shook, tears running down his cheeks, everyone continued with what they were doing, maybe glanced at the baby, then went back to their business.
I immediately became infuriated, and literally threw what ever I was bagging to the side and went to the bathroom. I got really hot and dizzy, and then i vomited in the toilet.

Thankfully, I still have my job.

Point is, is this a normal reaction? Sounds a little over the top, but I don’t know..
Just give me your opinion.

I was at a grocery store the other day, and my one and a half year old was sitting in the shopping cart seat. I went to the front of the cart to put my groceries up on the conveyor (I’m 9 months pregnant, I can barely lean over the side of the cart, much less lean over my daughter as well) and while I was doing this, the older woman in line behind me got extremely close to my daughter while putting her own groceries up on the conveyor. I’m not talking about coming within a four-foot radius, I’m talking about this woman being right up against the shopping cart handle. Her arm was literally inches from my daughter’s hands, and her hip was brushing against my daughter’s shoes. It made me very angry, so I said to my daughter (who was staring at the buckle on the lady’s purse strap) "No, you can’t grab the lady’s purse even if she is too close to you." Obviously this was for the lady, not for my daughter. Then the woman started moving her groceries up on the conveyor because it hadn’t moved yet, putting them within reach of my daughter, and I had to tell her not to touch. When the person in front of me finally finished, I moved the cart away saying "Let’s get you away from the obnoxious old lady now."

Now I know that that might have been a bit of a hormonal moment there. But it seriously bothers me when people invade my daughter’s personal space. I don’t like strangers touching her or getting close to her, or even talking to her without talking to me first. Do any of you feel the same way, or is this just my pregnancy making me irritable?
There’s a question about a 12-year-old selling drugs to a guy who drugs his dog, but I’m accused of trolling because I’m curious if other parents dislike strangers invading their kids’ personal space? Okay..

Like I said, this woman was literally brushing up against my daughter. While I might not have been exactly tactful, it blows my mind that people think it’s okay to get that close to others, even if (especially if) it’s a child.
Leigh: I was raised to respect people’s personal space. I grew up being taught that it was never okay to push, touch, or bump people if there was a way not to. It’s just disrespectful, my whole family is like that. I don’t think that this woman was obnoxious because she *got* that close to my daughter, I think she was obnoxious for *staying* that close to her, especially after I had already commented on it. And I feel like it was just stupid of her to move her groceries even closer to a toddler than they already were.

None of you first few answerers actually answered my question; does that mean you’d be okay with some strange woman rubbing against your kid in a checkout line, rather than waiting two minutes for the line to move?

My 2 1/2yr old son just switched from pull-ups to cloth trainers with a built-in waterproof liner. They should minimize mess for now but shifting & leaks can happen, plus he’ll eventually transition to regular toddler underwear and I’m already wondering how to handle it when….for example:
-he pees on the shopping cart seat?
-he pees on my friend’s new couch or carpeting?
-he pees on the swings/play-set at a public playground?
-his pee trickles down his leg to the floor in the middle of a store?

I know all the tricks for minimizing accidents (go before & after, bring a potty, ask regularly, bring a clothes change, etc.) but accidents still seem almost inevitable. We don’t want to use Pull-Ups while we’re out because my son thinks of them as diapers (& uses them as such) and is very excited to be done with them.

I have this mental image of myself standing in a grocery isle holding my baby in his carrier, a shopping basket set strategically out of the way, & clutching the hand of my oldest to keep him still while pee puddles at his feet and wondering whether to track pee down the isle in search of an employee or just stand there and hope one happens by soon. Any tips?
First, please take the time to actually read my question. Those were HYPOTHETICAL scenarios.

And to clarify I have already trained 3 girls as a nanny. It’s different as a mom because there are errands & dr’s appts that MUST be done. I can’t just stay at the house during training like I did as a nanny. THAT is what I need advice about. I would NEVER force my child to use the potty (as if that’s possible) or scold my child for an accident.

Also, this training has been initiated by my son. I am not trying to train him on a deadline or because "his friends are trained". I did that as a nanny too (per the parents) and learned my lesson. My son started this and has been training for over a month and has now gone 3 days without an accident. He is very excited about his new potty skills & his new underwear.

I just wanted public opinion on how to handle these situations IF they arise.

Thank you to those who actually gave advice for the question I asked.

My son is 21 months old and has just recently started having terrible tantrums. I know the best thing i can do is ignore him, but this is not always possible. He bangs his head on the floor and does not quit. He will bang his head so hard that he makes himself cry and then will just keep hitting it more. He leaves terrible bruises on his forehead. After he gets what he wants he will quit but I just can’t watch him do this anymore. If we go to walmart, when i go to put him in the cart seat, he kicks his feet like crazy and screams bloody murder. Other people say just leave the store and let him no this isn’t ok to do, but i can’t leave everytime i go! i have to do my grocery shopping sometime! Also, when we go to restaurants he throws awful fits and throws all the food on the floor….. Am i going to have to stay home for the next 2 years? HELP!

Hi
Last month I upgraded my infant car seat to the next level and discovered I can no longer just keep my baby in his car seat when we go shopping. Although he sits very well (crawl and stands even) I just do not feel confident about placing him in the shopping cart seat ( I’m afraid he’ll fall over). Then I worry about how I’ll entertain him in that thing, I had toys dangling from his carrier before. Has anyone else found this transition difficult. Any tips what I can do to make it easier.
I’ve been using my snuggly but now that its winter and he is in his snow suit he wont fit in that.

thanks
yes I know I should just go for it already. I never realized how much I depended on my infant carrier. I’ll go and get one of those cart covers to start. thanks

My son is two, and I don’t believe that I have the right to control every, single little thing he does. For instance, when we go shopping he knows he’s allowed one treat at the end of the trip IF he was a good boy and he gets to choose what he wants. He also chooses to sit in the cart itself, as opposed to the seat. I also let him choose his breakfast food. He almost invariably chooses cereal or toast and fruit (he knows he’s not allowed things like candy for breakfast) These, to me, are innocent enough choices and seem healthy? How else is he supposed to grow up into a functional human being able to make decisions? There are rules, of course, but he knows them and for the most part he’ll follow them… there are days when he doesn’t and he’s punished if he doesn’t listen or when he starts to throw tantrums (timeouts, toys taken away, etc.)

Today, my mother in law came grocery shopping with us, and as always my son chose to sit in the cart. My MIL FORCED him in the cart seat and my son immediately started crying and throwing a loud tantrum. I told him to calm down, wiped away his tears and put him in the cart. I told her he doesn’t like to sit in the seat and wants to sit in the cart. She replied, that he doesn’t get to have choices (or a will if you like) and that he will do what she says and I give in to him too easily. She basically said children don’t get to make their own decisions.

I don’t know if maybe I’m doing something wrong? Do you give your toddlers a choice in certain matters? Or is it supposed to be all your decisions all the time?

I should probably not take parenting advice from my MIL – she’s extremely controlling and still did things like buy my husband’s clothes AFTER we were married… that is until I put a stop to it.

My son is 10 months old, sits independently but is not crawling yet (any day now!). We go out to eat at least twice a week and usually we bring him in in the carseat carrier and then he sits on my husband’s lap for most of the meal, eating little bites from our plates. If we’re eating something that needs two hands, we set him in the carseat for a little while. Usually we either have the carseat on a booth bench, on a stable chair, or in one of those "carseat holders" that some restaurants have.
When I’m on my own with him in a restaurant, I bring a booster seat with tray that has safety straps. I can’t stand that carseat.

So far we haven’t put him into one of those wooden highchairs that restaurants have for kids, and we haven’t put him into a grocery cart seat either. (At the grocery store I have him in the BabyBjorn.) I’m afraid that he’ll lean over and fall out!

How old were your kids when you started putting them in these chairs/seats? Did they try to escape/fall out?

My son is two, and he is a hitter. So bad I dont even want to bring him to the nursery at my moms church or anywhere else cas Im afriad hes going to hit a kid or an adult. I feel I am to blame for this because since he was the age of reaching and grabbing Ive smacked his patties. This was used for things like the stove and other things that were harmful or werent to be touched. Now I have created a monster. I was in the grocery store and flipped my hand over and smacked it because he didnt want to sit in the grocery cart seat. (YIKES) I am due in august with my second child and Im petrified. What do I do to reverse this ? Im not doing the smack patties thing anymore..what can I do ?

i cant seem to find the disney princess turbo booster seat all i find is the bottom half i need the whole car seat since she just turn 3 and is going out of her carseat that she is in now but i cant find this cart seat anywhere online i dont mind going to the store but runny around might be too much and come home empty handed, since my littlest one is staring to grow out of her infant car seat so now i have to upgrade soon. any websites will be helpful thanks
my daughter is 35lbs and is close to 3 1/2 feet tall . this is the one she has now

http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=4231507

it takes a good 5 minuets just to get her in and buckle right. but thanks very much for the tips i am very caution on thier safty i wouldnt want to make a mistake like a wrong carseat thanks again

Hmmmm.. it seems to me that one member of the Yahoo! Answers community is very closed minded about what should or should not go in the cart at the grocery store. I thought maybe we could help her be more open-minded about our questions and perhaps inspire her to think outside the box.

I’ll start! I put my 3 month old baby in the shopping cart in her carseat and I will deinitely let her sit up front in her shopping cart seat cover when she is old enough because I have severe back problems and, although I’d love to, I can’t always carry her in a sling or front carrier. In fact, I have even put my dog in the shopping cart before! :>)
I agree but I’m tired of hearing how "there’s no reason anything besides food belongs in a grocery cart" Everyone is different and different ideas, advice about parenting should be respected not put down by her.
I don’t feel inferior. I FEEL that her responses are often unnecessarily rude.

How old was your baby when he/she began to sit in the shopping cart seat? I just got my daughter a new car seat that stays in the car b/c she’s too big for her infant car seat. She’s only 4 months old (and weighs almost 19 pounds) so she can’t sit unassisted yet. I don’t mind doing the baby carrier thing, but in a few weeks she’s going to be way too big for that. She sits fairly straight up but not for too long.

When did you kids start sitting in the shopping cart?

My sisters daughter is 7 (almost years old.
I was really surprised when I went to the store the other day and my sister picked her up and sat her in the cart seat with no issues.
My niece is small, but is that a reason to use the seat?
Am I making a big deal out of this or what?

I am going to reupholster my golf cart seat and i can staple and do everything myself but i don’t know what kind of fabric to use? I need something durable but cheap and hopefully looks good, im open to anything. Thanks