In the beginning (the first month) she was really normal and cool and kind and fun and up-beat. I really fell for her and her for me, and although I was going through some stuff and had anxiety issues, I felt we had a good relationship and got along great. It has been 3 months since we started dating. For the past month, or things have gone down hill really fast. Part of this is my fault. I was spending way too much time fighting with my ex about things related to our kids and our divorce the first month (she left me a few of months before I met my girlfriend.

Now she is really jealous, and really sensitive and almost paranoid and always getting angry at me or upset because she thinks I am acting weird or being mean or being cold or am saying things that she takes the wrong way. Like for instance one time she got upset because I was sick and her son jumped on my stomach while I was sitting on the couch and I rolled my eyes and did not act like I wanted to hold him, I smiled at him and tried to play with him and I told her I was sorry and that I was just in a bad mood and although i didn’t say anything and didn’t put him down, he eventually just got up and ran off to play. She was angry at me and the next day she was still mad and I tried to get her to calm down. so I told her "look I’m not his father, so I could not love him the way that you do, but I care about him very much." She only heard "look im not his father," and got angry and almost broke up with me and was angry for a couple of days. Another time I said to her that I didn’t want to talk on the phone so long while at work because, (although my hours are flexible), I have to work later if I do that, and end up spending less time with her. She got angry and basically thought I was saying I didn’t want to talk to her. And then we’ve had issues with my and her kids and my visitation schedule. She doesn’t want to come to my house, and I cnat cart my kids off to her house all the time and spend every day doing things together. My kids want to hang around the house or play outside with friends and have sleep-overs, not spend every night at her house and every day at the roller rink or the movies or the mall or something. The fighting has become so frequent, that I can hardly stand it, especially because it is over stupid stuff like that. It gets to the point where I am apprehensive about talking to her and always wondering how she is going to react to everything. Then, she gets upset over me being in an anxious or gloomy mood, or not being as talkitive or relaxed. It is really absurd. She palys all kinds of games too. like she will get pissed off at me for wanting to go out with my friends and, instead of saying that she doesn’t want me to go, she acts insulted that I "am acting like I am accusing her of not wanting me to go." As if I actually said she didn’t want me to go, or something, which I did not. If I act at all like I don’t want to be aroud her or need a break, she basically acts like she is goign to break up with me. Then she comes up with all kinds of reasons for not wanting to come to my house, and then when she doesn’t come over, and when I don’t go to her place because I have 3 kids who visit on the weekends and can’t bring them to her place all the time, she acts like I am rejecting her or like there is no hope for us, aor else expects me to spend hours on the phone with her instead of spending quality time with my kids. I’m not the one saying that she shouldn’t come over. She is the one who doesn’t want to come over. I still go to her house and bring two of the kids or all three if one has plans or something. The more this goes on the more she accuses me of treating her badly, or lot really loving her or not being over my ex, etc. and makes comments that we aren’t going to last because we fight too much. and she says she feels like my mistress, although I try to treat her like a queen. I’ve never really dealth with this kind of thing, not really, and she didn’t seem like the type before and I never got from what she has been saying that she ever was like that. She sid she was in some bad, even abusive relationships, but she acts as if those guys couldn’t care less about her and treated her badly and cheated on her. I really don’t know what to do, except to try to do what I need to do for my kids and me, and hope she doesn’t flip out or leave me or something. It is a shame. I really do love her and want to treat ehr good and don’t want to break up. I don’t know why she has to act this way.

This is something cute I wrote today. Nothing too serious or too deep. Tell me what you think!
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Lea met David at the grocery store. David watched Lea speed down the aisles on a shopping cart. Lea fought with David over the last box of hot chocolate. David gave up. Lea won. They ate pizza together a week later. And they also watched The Hangover on DVD. They hung out for months afterwards. Lea has a germ phobia, but shares her dessert with David every time. David lets her sleep on the bed. He sleeps on the couch. It’s not very comfortable. Lea wears pink-tinted chapstick. David doesn’t particularly like pink-tinted chapstick. Lea doesn’t care. Lea likes David. And David likes Lea.

This year, Lea is taking a break from David. David is taking a break from Lea. He can’t stand her messiness. Lea can’t stand his attitude. Lea’s drawer at David’s apartment is empty, except for a sock. Since he can’t find the other one, David throws away the sock. But he changes his mind and puts it back. While Lea unpacks her suitcase at her mom’s house, she finds a single gray sock. She doesn’t know what to do with it. So she kicks it under the bed.

Every morning, David makes coffee for himself. He watches his neighbors walk their dog, a cocker spaniel. David hates dogs. But he likes mornings and especially morning walks. Lea never wanted to walk with him in the morning. Today, David goes for a run. Tonight, David is going to a bar with his friends. Life is good again.

Lea never liked laundry. David would always do it for her. Today, Lea’s favorite white dress turned pink. Lea kicks the dryer. She dials her sister and they go out for shopping. Lea’s sister is getting married. Lea informs her sister she hates men. Lea’s sister assures her that there are still good ones out there. You just have to look for them.

It’s winter again. David went to the grocery store today. He found himself buying a box of hot chocolate. David misses Lea. A lot.

Earlier, Lea kissed a boy. She likes this boy. He tells her she’s beautiful. He lets her sit on his lap. He makes waffles for her, out of the blue. She doesn’t even need to ask him to do nice things for her. This boy likes Lea very much. Lea still misses David. But not as much as before.

David calls Lea. One ring. Two rings. Three rings. Four rings. No answer. He sighs. Lea arrives at David’s apartment during the night. She is drunk. He is drunk. She confesses her feelings to him. He reciprocates, earnestly. She pushes him against the wall. He traces the lining of her waist with his finger. She is familiar to him. He is familiar to her. They are familiar. She takes him to the couch. Lea and David sleep together.

The next day, Lea apologizes to David. David takes her hand and pleads for her. She slips it out of his hold. She has a boyfriend now. David can’t bring himself to watch her walk away. He ignores his phone calls. He skips a few meals, now and then. But he never, ever gives up his morning walks.

Lea cries on the way home. She sobs until her throat burns. She can’t understand herself. Lea just doesn’t know anymore. She just doesn’t know.

David moves across the country for a job promotion. Lea stays at home. They don’t see or speak to each other again. They find closure in their own ways, but not quite. David has a hole in his heart, but he understands. He is getting better. Lea also has a hole in her heart, but she understands, too. They are not exactly happy, but they are moving on with their lives, without each other. And that is okay.

i am 19 and am expecting a baby in 5 weeks. my then-fiance recentley walked out a few weeks ago leaving me w/ a whole load of bills at my house, which i am renting. my rent is 0 and then theres utilities w/ a seperate water bill and seperate electric. i have a cell phone to pay for too. i cannot work until 6 to 8 weeks post partum. my fiance had been paying for all of this until he walked out. my mom told me if i can get money to pay the landlord (which is my aunt) she will pay my utilities. my other aunt and friend have decided to split my phone bill. my mom has been wanting me to move back in w/ her, which is right next door. she has a husband (my step dad) who lives there too along w/ our adult cousin and my 2 sisters ten and 13. the house is only 2 bedroom so my parents have a room, my sisters have another room and my cousin sleeps on the couch or floor downstairs. i got my friend to loan me 200 and another friend to loan me 100. i just needed 80 more and was working on getting that from my grandma for doing work around her home. (cleaning, ect)

i gave the 300 to my mom for her to pay her sister a rent payment and tell her i will have the remaining $$ the next week. my mom says theres no point in having me be in debt to people and having to borrow $ for the next 3-4 months. my bills are already low b/c my shower head is broken so i shower and mostly eat on my moms side. (our houses are in a double) i have the food card and medical card so i can get food my bills are just a problem b/c i have 0 income. i am an stna and have a job lined up to start in april making 10 an hour, so paying ppl back will be done in the next 6-8 months.

my mother, however has her own ideas. she took it upon herself to call up my aunt and tell her i’m going to move back in with her b/c i couldn’t come up w/ the money in time. my aunt gave me till feb first but my mom told her thats ok i’m willing to move right now asap. then my mom spent 50 of my rent money on her and my dad to eat at outback and 40 to buy my sisters and cousins pizza and the another 30 to get my sisters haircuts.and of course now has no reason to pay utilities. so i’m going to use the $ i get from my grandmother and whats left of what my mom did not spend to cover the utilities.

i asked my mom about this and she said oh i will pay you back but i know thats not going to happen. she never pays any1 back unless its small things like borrowing a dollar or two until my dad gets home or something. my mom babysits and make a few hundred a week and my dad is a roofer which is seasonal work. my grown cousin doesn’t work either.

so now i am forced to move back next door-which i really don’t want to do. i will sleep down stairs in the corner of the living room in my bed w/ my baby in her crib or bassinett next to me. i have a care cart from walmart for her that will hold her diapers and such but that has to get stuck in the bathroom b/c there isn’t room in the living room. my stuff and my babys stuff like clothes and toys and any extra anything will be in tubs in an upstairs "play room" that is only about 11 by 4 feet.

i just got a bunch of new house things for christmas and they now must go into storage. i know i should be grateful for my mom being so generous when shew doesn’t have too, but honestly if you knew my mom. she is pushy and only wants me to live w/ her b/c she wants me to stay dependant on her and not be independant or have my own things. and also so i can clean the house and cook for her like i did in my teen years. i will have to work 2nd shift when i start my job which means sleeping late into the a/m. like i said my mom babysits a lot of toddlers who don’t go to school yet so w/ my bed in the living room i won’t be able to sleep past 6 am.
to top it all off, i got put on the chore chart w/ my sisters. my mom says i can help out if i am staying there and i said yea but i don’t need to be on a stupid chart for babies. i can already tell the chart is a way for me to be made to do plenty of work and not have any reason to not do what my mom wants me to do. what would you do here?

My 2 1/2yr old son just switched from pull-ups to cloth trainers with a built-in waterproof liner. They should minimize mess for now but shifting & leaks can happen, plus he’ll eventually transition to regular toddler underwear and I’m already wondering how to handle it when….for example:
-he pees on the shopping cart seat?
-he pees on my friend’s new couch or carpeting?
-he pees on the swings/play-set at a public playground?
-his pee trickles down his leg to the floor in the middle of a store?

I know all the tricks for minimizing accidents (go before & after, bring a potty, ask regularly, bring a clothes change, etc.) but accidents still seem almost inevitable. We don’t want to use Pull-Ups while we’re out because my son thinks of them as diapers (& uses them as such) and is very excited to be done with them.

I have this mental image of myself standing in a grocery isle holding my baby in his carrier, a shopping basket set strategically out of the way, & clutching the hand of my oldest to keep him still while pee puddles at his feet and wondering whether to track pee down the isle in search of an employee or just stand there and hope one happens by soon. Any tips?
First, please take the time to actually read my question. Those were HYPOTHETICAL scenarios.

And to clarify I have already trained 3 girls as a nanny. It’s different as a mom because there are errands & dr’s appts that MUST be done. I can’t just stay at the house during training like I did as a nanny. THAT is what I need advice about. I would NEVER force my child to use the potty (as if that’s possible) or scold my child for an accident.

Also, this training has been initiated by my son. I am not trying to train him on a deadline or because "his friends are trained". I did that as a nanny too (per the parents) and learned my lesson. My son started this and has been training for over a month and has now gone 3 days without an accident. He is very excited about his new potty skills & his new underwear.

I just wanted public opinion on how to handle these situations IF they arise.

Thank you to those who actually gave advice for the question I asked.

hello i am not veronica that owns this profile but her friend, lydia. i just want to ask a quick ? of you guys.

i am 19 and am expecting a baby in 5 weeks. my then-fiance recentley walked out a few weeks ago leaving me w/ a whole load of bills at my house, which i am renting. my rent is 0 and then theres utilities w/ a seperate water bill and seperate electric. i have a cell phone to pay for too. i cannot work until 6 to 8 weeks post partum. my fiance had been paying for all of this until he walked out. my mom told me if i can get money to pay the landlord (which is my aunt) she will pay my utilities. my other aunt and friend have decided to split my phone bill. my mom has been wanting me to move back in w/ her, which is right next door. she has a husband (my step dad) who lives there too along w/ our adult cousin and my 2 sisters ten and 13. the house is only 2 bedroom so my parents have a room, my sisters have another room and my cousin sleeps on the couch or floor downstairs. i got my friend to loan me 200 and another friend to loan me 100. i just needed 80 more and was working on getting that from my grandma for doing work around her home. (cleaning, ect)

i gave the 300 to my mom for her to pay her sister a rent payment and tell her i will have the remaining $$ the next week. my mom says theres no point in having me be in debt to people and having to borrow $ for the next 3-4 months. my bills are already low b/c my shower head is broken so i shower and mostly eat on my moms side. (our houses are in a double) i have the food card and medical card so i can get food my bills are just a problem b/c i have 0 income. i am an stna and have a job lined up to start in april making 10 an hour, so paying ppl back will be done in the next 6-8 months.

my mother, however has her own ideas. she took it upon herself to call up my aunt and tell her i’m going to move back in with her b/c i couldn’t come up w/ the money in time. my aunt gave me till feb first but my mom told her thats ok i’m willing to move right now asap. then my mom spent 50 of my rent money on her and my dad to eat at outback and 40 to buy my sisters and cousins pizza and the another 30 to get my sisters haircuts.and of course now has no reason to pay utilities. so i’m going to use the $ i get from my grandmother and whats left of what my mom did not spend to cover the utilities.

i asked my mom about this and she said oh i will pay you back but i know thats not going to happen. she never pays any1 back unless its small things like borrowing a dollar or two until my dad gets home or something. my mom babysits and make a few hundred a week and my dad is a roofer which is seasonal work. my grown cousin doesn’t work either.

so now i am forced to move back next door-which i really don’t want to do. i will sleep down stairs in the corner of the living room in my bed w/ my baby in her crib or bassinett next to me. i have a care cart from walmart for her that will hold her diapers and such but that has to get stuck in the bathroom b/c there isn’t room in the living room. my stuff and my babys stuff like clothes and toys and any extra anything will be in tubs in an upstairs "play room" that is only about 11 by 4 feet.

i just got a bunch of new house things for christmas and they now must go into storage. i know i should be grateful for my mom being so generous when shew doesn’t have too, but honestly if you knew my mom. she is pushy and only wants me to live w/ her b/c she wants me to stay dependant on her and not be independant or have my own things. and also so i can clean the house and cook for her like i did in my teen years. i will have to work 2nd shift when i start my job which means sleeping late into the a/m. like i said my mom babysits a lot of toddlers who don’t go to school yet so w/ my bed in the living room i won’t be able to sleep past 6 am.
to top it all off, i got put on the chore chart w/ my sisters. my mom says i can help out if i am staying there and i said yea but i don’t need to be on a stupid chart for babies. i can already tell the chart is a way for me to be made to do plenty of work and not have any reason to not do what my mom wants me to do. what would you do here?

hello i am not veronica that owns this profile but her friend, lydia. i just want to ask a quick ? of you guys.

i am 19 and am expecting a baby in 5 weeks. my then-fiance recentley walked out a few weeks ago leaving me w/ a whole load of bills at my house, which i am renting. my rent is 0 and then theres utilities w/ a seperate water bill and seperate electric. i have a cell phone to pay for too. i cannot work until 6 to 8 weeks post partum. my fiance had been paying for all of this until he walked out. my mom told me if i can get money to pay the landlord (which is my aunt) she will pay my utilities. my other aunt and friend have decided to split my phone bill. my mom has been wanting me to move back in w/ her, which is right next door. she has a husband (my step dad) who lives there too along w/ our adult cousin and my 2 sisters ten and 13. the house is only 2 bedroom so my parents have a room, my sisters have another room and my cousin sleeps on the couch or floor downstairs. i got my friend to loan me 200 and another friend to loan me 100. i just needed 80 more and was working on getting that from my grandma for doing work around her home. (cleaning, ect)

i gave the 300 to my mom for her to pay her sister a rent payment and tell her i will have the remaining $$ the next week. my mom says theres no point in having me be in debt to people and having to borrow $ for the next 3-4 months. my bills are already low b/c my shower head is broken so i shower and mostly eat on my moms side. (our houses are in a double) i have the food card and medical card so i can get food my bills are just a problem b/c i have 0 income. i am an stna and have a job lined up to start in april making 10 an hour, so paying ppl back will be done in the next 6-8 months.

my mother, however has her own ideas. she took it upon herself to call up my aunt and tell her i’m going to move back in with her b/c i couldn’t come up w/ the money in time. my aunt gave me till feb first but my mom told her thats ok i’m willing to move right now asap. then my mom spent 50 of my rent money on her and my dad to eat at outback and 40 to buy my sisters and cousins pizza and the another 30 to get my sisters haircuts.and of course now has no reason to pay utilities. so i’m going to use the $ i get from my grandmother and whats left of what my mom did not spend to cover the utilities.

i asked my mom about this and she said oh i will pay you back but i know thats not going to happen. she never pays any1 back unless its small things like borrowing a dollar or two until my dad gets home or something. my mom babysits and make a few hundred a week and my dad is a roofer which is seasonal work. my grown cousin doesn’t work either.

so now i am forced to move back next door-which i really don’t want to do. i will sleep down stairs in the corner of the living room in my bed w/ my baby in her crib or bassinett next to me. i have a care cart from walmart for her that will hold her diapers and such but that has to get stuck in the bathroom b/c there isn’t room in the living room. my stuff and my babys stuff like clothes and toys and any extra anything will be in tubs in an upstairs "play room" that is only about 11 by 4 feet.

i just got a bunch of new house things for christmas and they now must go into storage. i know i should be grateful for my mom being so generous when shew doesn’t have too, but honestly if you knew my mom. she is pushy and only wants me to live w/ her b/c she wants me to stay dependant on her and not be independant or have my own things. and also so i can clean the house and cook for her like i did in my teen years. i will have to work 2nd shift when i start my job which means sleeping late into the a/m. like i said my mom babysits a lot of toddlers who don’t go to school yet so w/ my bed in the living room i won’t be able to sleep past 6 am.
to top it all off, i got put on the chore chart w/ my sisters. my mom says i can help out if i am staying there and i said yea but i don’t need to be on a stupid chart for babies. i can already tell the chart is a way for me to be made to do plenty of work and not have any reason to not do what my mom wants me to do. what would you do here?