hello i am not veronica that owns this profile but her friend, lydia. i just want to ask a quick ? of you guys.

i am 19 and am expecting a baby in 5 weeks. my then-fiance recentley walked out a few weeks ago leaving me w/ a whole load of bills at my house, which i am renting. my rent is 0 and then theres utilities w/ a seperate water bill and seperate electric. i have a cell phone to pay for too. i cannot work until 6 to 8 weeks post partum. my fiance had been paying for all of this until he walked out. my mom told me if i can get money to pay the landlord (which is my aunt) she will pay my utilities. my other aunt and friend have decided to split my phone bill. my mom has been wanting me to move back in w/ her, which is right next door. she has a husband (my step dad) who lives there too along w/ our adult cousin and my 2 sisters ten and 13. the house is only 2 bedroom so my parents have a room, my sisters have another room and my cousin sleeps on the couch or floor downstairs. i got my friend to loan me 200 and another friend to loan me 100. i just needed 80 more and was working on getting that from my grandma for doing work around her home. (cleaning, ect)

i gave the 300 to my mom for her to pay her sister a rent payment and tell her i will have the remaining $$ the next week. my mom says theres no point in having me be in debt to people and having to borrow $ for the next 3-4 months. my bills are already low b/c my shower head is broken so i shower and mostly eat on my moms side. (our houses are in a double) i have the food card and medical card so i can get food my bills are just a problem b/c i have 0 income. i am an stna and have a job lined up to start in april making 10 an hour, so paying ppl back will be done in the next 6-8 months.

my mother, however has her own ideas. she took it upon herself to call up my aunt and tell her i’m going to move back in with her b/c i couldn’t come up w/ the money in time. my aunt gave me till feb first but my mom told her thats ok i’m willing to move right now asap. then my mom spent 50 of my rent money on her and my dad to eat at outback and 40 to buy my sisters and cousins pizza and the another 30 to get my sisters haircuts.and of course now has no reason to pay utilities. so i’m going to use the $ i get from my grandmother and whats left of what my mom did not spend to cover the utilities.

i asked my mom about this and she said oh i will pay you back but i know thats not going to happen. she never pays any1 back unless its small things like borrowing a dollar or two until my dad gets home or something. my mom babysits and make a few hundred a week and my dad is a roofer which is seasonal work. my grown cousin doesn’t work either.

so now i am forced to move back next door-which i really don’t want to do. i will sleep down stairs in the corner of the living room in my bed w/ my baby in her crib or bassinett next to me. i have a care cart from walmart for her that will hold her diapers and such but that has to get stuck in the bathroom b/c there isn’t room in the living room. my stuff and my babys stuff like clothes and toys and any extra anything will be in tubs in an upstairs "play room" that is only about 11 by 4 feet.

i just got a bunch of new house things for christmas and they now must go into storage. i know i should be grateful for my mom being so generous when shew doesn’t have too, but honestly if you knew my mom. she is pushy and only wants me to live w/ her b/c she wants me to stay dependant on her and not be independant or have my own things. and also so i can clean the house and cook for her like i did in my teen years. i will have to work 2nd shift when i start my job which means sleeping late into the a/m. like i said my mom babysits a lot of toddlers who don’t go to school yet so w/ my bed in the living room i won’t be able to sleep past 6 am.
to top it all off, i got put on the chore chart w/ my sisters. my mom says i can help out if i am staying there and i said yea but i don’t need to be on a stupid chart for babies. i can already tell the chart is a way for me to be made to do plenty of work and not have any reason to not do what my mom wants me to do. what would you do here?