Who was out of line? The mother or the babysitter?
I baby sat a young boy from the age of 16 mos to three years of age. He was with me an awful lot. At times more the 40 hours a week. "appointment...
I baby sat a young boy from the age of 16 mos to three years of age. He was with me an awful lot. At times more the 40 hours a week. "appointments" that lasted over five hours at a time. Don’t get me wrong, Christopher was a joy.
I wanted to ask other parents what they thought of this. I went to the store one evening with Christopher and his mother before they could drop me off at home. The mother let Christopher run wild down the aisles of this gigantic grocery store. At first I tried to blow it off. Reminding myself. "Hey your not babysitting right now. Mommy dearest is right there." But as we went to check out, toddler finally in tow (Because I called him over), he broke loose and went running down the aisles and out of sight. This time I went to go get him, and I brought him back. His mother freaked on me. "He’s okay, you’re not his mother." I’m sorry, letting your kid run around in the grocery store when your not paying attention is one heck of a way for you child to go missing. I was always taught when you have small children you don’t turn away from them to browse, you don’t walk away from the cart when their in it and you definitely don’t let them run around while you shop!
I don’t know maybe because she was there I should have just let it go, but it really pissed me off. I don’t have any children myself, but I am an adult and I still felt responsible. Should I have step back? or was Mom out of line?
Na, I’d say the mother was definitely out of line. I’m sixteen, and I babysit several different families. On multiple occasions when I was out with the families I would take care of the children when the parents were occupied or busy for whatever reason. I’ve only received appreciation and personally, I’d be offended if a mother treated me that way when I was looking out for the wellbeing of her child. You may not have been on duty at the time, but she did hire you to care for her child. Obviously, if you’ve spent that much time with a child, your going to feel a natural inclination to look out for it and make sure it is safe.
Honestly, you shouldn’t let it get to you. Just accept that she was wrong for not acting herself and for calling you out when you were doing her a favor.
The mom was out of line. She should have been more cautious and concerned what her child was doing rather than not paying attention at all. God forbid something would have happened to him, the first thing she would have said is why didn’t you do something or why weren’t you watching him. You were acting out in good faith not only as his babysitter but as a responsible adult. I think that mom needs to shift her priorites.
does it matter?? let it go, learn from this, and choose your families with more caution in the future.
Mom out of line… you should have put her in her place nicely and let her know that you were concerned that something might happen to him.
The mom was out of line…she was probably upset because you can control the kid and she can’t…maybe you shouldn’t sit for her anymore….
She kind of sounds like a shitty mom, and a toddler should never be allowed to run around in public alone.
the mother was out of line, but you were in a really tough spot
mother was out of line.she shouldn’t be letting the kid run around like that in a shop. if the kid goes missing will she say to you "he’s okay, you’re not his mother." i guess she would scold you for not looking out for him…what a mother…..
I think the mom was out of line, Even if you had done something to make her freak out on you it was rude of her to say it like that. I’d be upset if I were you. It’s a hard call as to what to do though. You know if something would have happened to him, she would have blamed you anyway so you’re sort of damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
Thats just crap. No mom should ever do that. Your more responsible than an adult. Talk to her how you worry he will get stolen/lost
The sorry news: you needed to step back. She is the kid’s legal guardian, and she is responsible for his behavior and his discipline when she is with him. It’s unfortunate that her judgment is not as good as yours. She is lucky to have you working for her. My suggestion is that you not spend time with her and her son at the same time. But bottomline– stuff like that is the parent’s call.
You were right. She probably just felt guilty because she noticed you were a better parent to her own child.
yea, mom was out of line…what if he had gotten hurt? or worse? she would never be able to live with her self. you did a good job!!
His mother probably is feeling very guilty about not spending as much time as she would like with her child and is probably jealous of the relationship and bond that you have developed with her child. It may have been an off day or a vulnerable moment. Or she’s a crappy mom.
The mom was being the irresponsible idiot.
You did the right thing!
Now go back to sleep happy!