Why is the public expected to put up with your kid!!?
I am married, and have no children by choice. It's not that I don't like kids, I just don't feel the need to reproduce. I like it quiet. I like things...
I am married, and have no children by choice. It’s not that I don’t like kids, I just don’t feel the need to reproduce. I like it quiet. I like things to be calm so I don’t have any kids. Two legged anyway. (7 dogs)
Why should I be expected to deal with bratty kids in public?
My husband and I went to a PG-13 movie and behind us were kids under the age of 4 making so much noise it ruined the movie. I complained to the manager and the parents called me names…I paid to watch the movie, not deal with their kids. Doesn’t matter where I go, kids running around and parents seem oblivious to it. I have walked away from grocery carts full just cause I didn’t want to deal with it anymore. Nobody says anything, why not?
Am I the only one who feels this way? How do others deal?
It drives me nuts too! I have two boys (now teens) and I never allowed them to misbehave in public. They had to sit quietly in their chairs during movies, behave themselves while we were out eating, had to apologize when they wronged someone else, put their trash in the trash can, etc.
When people allow their kids to run wild, it teaches them that their wants and desires are the most important thing and that the wants and desires of other people don’t matter. It teaches them to be sorry, selfish, rude adults!
The truth is, is normal that you have to put up with it. They’re kids, and they will eventually be adults, just like when you were a kid and probably annoyed a ton of other people. So, next time, jsut quietly inform the couple and deal with it. There are some people who can’t even afford to see movies.
I agree with you. I made my daughter behave when she was growing up. These parents are selfish and they are undisciplined themselves. It is a disgrace. I don’t go to movies anymore and I am careful as to where else I go, I have really grown to hate being around kids. I deal with it by avoiding kids.
Your not!!!! Parent’s today think its OK for their kids to act this way in public. Its so annoying!!!! But they have this "idea" that they are just being kids. No…its disprespect is what it is, alot of parents cannot (choose not) to deal with their children’s behavoior…its sad…we are raising a generation of disrepectful humans…and they are going to run the world someday…scary… I AM a parent, and my daughter never acts (and never has) acted in this way in public, she knows better.
well at one point we all were once children, another is that you’re right you have a choice whether or not to deal with bratty kids and lastly we cannot really tell their parents on how to raise their children. i feel that maybe we ought to live and let live.we are free to decide after all.
Some people choose not to discipline their kids. I think some people try, but don’t succeed. People don’t say anything because some of those parents would fly off the handle and threaten lawsuits. I saw that very thing in a grocery store when a stock boy asked a woman to get her son off a display because the stock boy was afraid the child would get hurt. Needless to say, the crowd around her defended the stock boy. The people who say kids will be kids and that we all probably acted that way, well I can tell you I most certainly DID NOT act that way. My parents wouldn’t have put up with it or allowed it.
Hell no, you aint the only one. I do love kids but there should be a line drawn when it comes to the behavior of some of these kids! I fully agree. You see I would be the one to tell that parent to get some control over their child but no parent wants someone they don’t know telling them what to do with their child.
Well, I’m a mom of 4 and I don’t put up with it. If someone is at my house I will discipline their kids if they don’t. It’s my house. Unfortunately, nothing against you, but no one has a reasonable expectation of privacy when out in public. As far as the theatre goes, I’ve had people kicked out before. Yes I discipline my kids and sometimes feel like the only one in the world. I don’t tolerate that behavior and I, myself, will leave a grocery store if my kids are acting up. The movie manager should have done his job. As far as the grocery store goes, well, I don’t know what to tell you. Try to have SOME tolerance for children, and something that goes a LOOOONGG way with me is when someone without kids compliments my kids’ behavior. It says a lot!!!! So remember, go ahead and scowl or whatever at the bratty kids and their parents, but try to also compliment the ones who are deserving!
I have no problem telling a child ‘You need to stop doing that’ if the parents aren’t doing it themselves. It usually embarrasses the parents, but I figure they should be embarrassed.
**Oh i hate tht! see i am 14 but i still cant stand lil kids messing up everything. i was in a grocery store by a stacked pyramid of green beans when two lil kids came running and knocked em all over! so i got the manager and he told ME to clean it up! i was stymied! why should I have to? i didnt. i just left. im sure i called their parents every name in the book cept fer mom and dad lol.
but we DONT have to take care of em, its just tht people with those kind of kids have no idea how to tell them to shut up and stand close! its crazy**
Nobody says anything because they don’t want to cause a scene or deal with conflict. People are too consumed with appearances and not disturbing or judging anyone else to speak up and say "Shut your big-mouthed brat up" in a place like a movie theater, or "Watch your kid before he breaks all the stuff he’s pulling off the shelves" when in a store. Parents just don’t want to deal with having to discipline their kids in public because they’re afraid they’ll look bad if they are stern with them. I say, don’t have kids if you’re not ready to teach them how to act properly in public.
Public should not have to put up with parents lack of parenting skills.
It disgusts me to see a kid running amuck, say on the bus, ferry, aisle of department store, fall down and parents yell ‘I told you not to do that, now see what you have done’ when the child is under 7 years of age.
It is a parenting problem and you learned that at the movies. The problem is people care only about themselves and they don’t care how what they or there kids are doing effect other people.
The worse news is that these kids running around while there parents don’t pay attention will be the same ones who break into your house 15 years from now.
I tell them to beat their children with a razor strap just like my [maternal] grandfather did to my mother; or lock them in a room with nothing in it and the lights off, then tell them to just sit completely still in the middle until they’re told otherwise like my [paternal] grandfather did to my father.
For those who actually think I’m serious, lighten up. I tolerate it, I practice the virtue of patience and simply tune them out unless it looks like they’re doing something dangerous. If I’m out in public, children are one of the things that I have to deal with, unless I’m going somewhere only for adults. Just as I have to deal with ill-mannered heathens who want to call themselves adults but still don’t know proper decorum in public.
I’m mature enough not to whine or bіtch about something I really have no power to change.
Some children have issues and difficult personalities, my sister was one of them (bi-polar, defiance disorder, and ADHD), now she has children who are far better behaved than she was, with no known issues. I fear for people who comment to her about their behavior, though; because she still hasn’t lost her short, violent-tempered, mothery, protective streak.
Kids are human beings and they have every right to go anywhere (within reason) that their parents feel appropriate to take them (x rated movies, bars, strip clubs obviously aren’t included). Since the movie was PG13, I assume it wasn’t a horror movie or full of violence and nudity. What’s wrong with someone taking their kids to the movies? They need to get out of the house too, occasionally. And it’s not the kids’ fault–blame the parents. Unless the theater was a full house, you could have moved. Personally, I’ve had worse luck with *adults* making noise in theaters.
Not to sound unkind, but I get sick of irresponsible pet owners refusing to clean up after their dogs do their business, letting the dogs bark at all hours of the day and night, etc. Same goes with them–the dogs are doing what they’re supposed to–blame the owners.
I’m willing to bet any- and everyone who agreed with you on this question doesn’t even have kids. I’ve always liked kids, but I can tell you honestly–if you and your hubby had decided to have your own, you’d have a totally different opinion of them.
If it truly bothers you, stop frequenting places that cater to kids (PG13 movies, Wal Mart on a Saturday morning, pizza restaurants, etc.).
I don’t like bratty kids. when i encounter them anywhere, i just walk away. I won’t even look at them.